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The good news arrived and you did it! Two lines on the pregnancy test and confirmed by blood test, you're officially pregnant. Congratulations! But why does it feel weird or off at times? Why do you feel you cannot enjoy it fully? It’s simple: you experienced a very different journey to get there, with many obstacles faced, and it will naturally influence how you go through your pregnancy.
It takes longer to realize you are pregnant
After months, sometimes years of not being pregnant, your mind got used to waiting and trying without the success you were expecting. As a result, you might not realize right away that things changed. It’s common to not feel pregnant at the beginning as your mind will need more time to process the news. No need to feel guilty about it—it’s common for women having experienced infertility.
You are not as excited as expected
At first, you might not feel as excited as you were planning to be. Achieving this pregnancy didn’t happen easily and being on a fertility journey comes with challenges and many difficult moments. It’s normal to protect yourself mentally and not let the joy of the good news take you over right away, especially if you have a history of miscarriage. Couples having experienced infertility will often soften their emotions and stay cautious. There is no right or wrong—all couples will decide how they want to handle it mentally, so no need to feel guilty.
You will be on the edge of your seat
After spending months listening to your body to try to conceive, you will notice that pregnancy comes with a brand new set of symptoms. Instead of reminding you of what’s coming in a few months, they could bring negative thoughts and fears. Remind yourself that your past experience is driving these fears and your odds of carrying a pregnancy successfully are not related to how long you’ve been trying. As the pregnancy progresses and you clear key milestones during the first trimester, confidence will come back and the doubts will subside.
You might want to announce it later
This pregnancy is particularly precious to you. Couples who didn’t experience infertility will not live it the same way. This often leads couples to wait a bit longer than the average to announce the good news—they want to make sure everything is going as planned. It’s also common to wait later in the pregnancy to start preparing the baby room. All these reasons are good ones and everyone has the right to announce it when it feels right.
So yes, becoming pregnant after a long fertility journey might feel a bit off, but don’t forget that you are also about to achieve your dream. It’s okay to experience it differently after dealing with infertility.
Don’t be hard on yourself and give yourself grace. Keep in mind your success is hope for all the other couples working hard to get there.
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